You Mainly Feel The Way You Think.

The Goal...is Not To Change Your Desires And Wishes But To Persuade You To Stop Demanding That You Absolutely Must Have What You Wish-from Yourself, From Others, And From The World. You Can By All Means Keep Your Wishes, Preferences, And Desires, But Unless You Prefer To Remain Needlessly Anxious, Not Your Grandiose Demands.

When I Started To Get Disillusioned With Psychoanalysis I Reread Philosophy And Was Reminded Of The Constructivist Notion That Epictetus Had Proposed 2,000 Years Ago: "people Are Disturbed Not By Events That Happen To Them, But By Their View Of Them." I Could See How That Applied To Many Of My Clients.

People And Things Do Not Upset Us. Rather, We Upset Ourselves By Believing That They Can Upset Us.

Needing Leads To Bleeding - To Almost All Inevitable Suffering.

Fat Is A Barrier, A Bellicose Statement To Others That, To Some, Justifies Hostility In Kind. The World Says To The Fat Person, "your Fatness Is An Affront To Me, So We Have The Right To Treat You As Offensively As You Appear." Fat Is Not Merely Viewed As Another Type Of Tissue, But As A Diagnostic Sign, A Personal Statement, And A Measure Of Personality. Too Little Fat And We See You As Being Antisocial, Fearful And Sexless. Too Much Fat And We See You As Slothful, Stupid, And Sexually Hung Up.