We Produce Destructive People By The Way

Anyone Who Has Ever Been A Mother Or Father And Is At All Honest Knows From Experience How Difficult It Can Be For Parents To Accept Certain Aspects Of Their Children. It Is Especially Painful To Have To Admit This If We Really Love Our Child And Want To Respect His Or Her Individuality Yet Are Unable To Do So.

Society Chooses To Disregard The Mistreatment Of Children, Judging It To Be Altogether Normal Because It Is So Commonplace.

People Who, As Children, Were Intellectually Far Beyond Their Parents And Therefore Admired By Them, But Who Also Therefore Had To Solve Their Own Problems Alone. These People, Who Give Us A Feeling Of Their Intellectual Strength And Will Power, Also Seem To Demand That We, Too, Ought To Fight Off Any Feeling Of Weakness With Intellectual Means. In Their Presence One Feels One Cannot Be Recognized As A Person With Problems Just As They And Their Problems Were Unrecognized By Their Parents, For Whom He Always Had To Be Strong.

Till Now, Society Has Protected The Adult And Blamed The Victim. It Has Been Abetted In Its Blindness By Theories, Still In Keeping With The Pedagogical Principles Of Our Great- Grandparents, According To Which Children Are Viewed As Crafty Creatures, Dominated By Wicked Drives, Who Invent Stories And Attack Their Innocent Parents Or Desire Them Sexually. In Reality, Children Tend To Blame Themselves For Their Parents' Cruelty And To Absolve The Parents, Whom They Invariably Love, Of All Responsibility.

Sadism Is Not An Infectious Disease That Strikes A Person All Of A Sudden. It Has A Long Prehistory In Childhood And Always Originates In The Desperate Fantasies Of A Child Who Is Searching For A Way Out Of A Hopeless Situation.