One Can Only Remember What Has Been

The Results Of Any Traumatic Experience, Such As Abuse, Can Only Be Resolved By Experiencing, Articulating, And Judging Every Facet Of The Original Experience Within A Process Of Careful Therapeutic Disclosure.

Genuine Feelings Are Never The Product Of Conscious Effort. They Are Quite Simply There, And They Are There For A Very Good Reason, Even If That Reason Is Not Always Apparent.

An Unacknowledged Trauma Is Like A Wound That Never Heals Over And May Start To Bleed Again At Any Time.

Learning Is A Result Of Listening, Which In Turn Leads To Even Better Listening And Attentiveness To The Other Person. In Other Words, To Learn From The Child, We Must Have Empathy, And Empathy Grows As We Learn.

That Probably Greatest Of Narcissistic Wounds -- Not To Have Been Loved Just As One Truly Was -- Cannot Heal Without The Work Of Mourning.