The Grandiose Person Is Never Really Free;

The Attempt To Be An Ideal Parent, That Is, To Behave Correctly Toward The Child, To Raise Her Correctly, Not To Give To Little Ortoo Much, Is In Essence An Attempt To Be The Ideal Child--well Behaved And Dutiful--of One's Own Parents. But As A Result Of These Efforts The Needs Of The Child Go Unnoticed. I Cannot Listen To My Child With Empathy If I Am Inwardly Preoccupied With Being A Good Mother; I Cannot Be Open To What She Is Telling Me.

Don't Ever Dare To Take Your College As A Matter Of Course - Because, Like Democracy And Freedom, Many People You'll Never Know Have Broken Their Hearts To Get It For You.

The Free Expression Of Resentment Against One's Parents Represents A Great Opportunity. It Provides Access To One's True Self, Reactivates Numbed Feelings, Opens The Way For Mourning And - With Luck - Reconciliation.

Someday We Will Regard Our Children Not As Creatures To Manipulate Or To Change But Rather As Messengers From A World We Once Deeply Knew, But Which We Have Long Since Forgotten, Who Can Reveal To Us More About The True Secrets Of Life, And Also Our Own Lives, Than Our Parents Were Ever Able To.

The Truth About Our Childhood Is Stored Up In Our Body, And Although We Can Repress It, We Can Never Alter It. Our Intellect Can Be Deceived, Our Feelings Manipulated, And Conceptions Confused, And Our Body Tricked With Medication. But Someday Our Body Will Present Its Bill, For It Is As Incorruptible As A Child, Who, Still Whole In Spirit, Will Accept No Compromises Or Excuses, And It Will Not Stop Tormenting Us Until We Stop Evading The Truth.