We Can Be Blind To The Obvious,

If There Was One Ubiquitous Recommendation About Marriage It Was This: "don't Go To Bed Angry."

You're Surprised By Something, But You Don't Really Know What Surprised You; You Recognize Someone, But You Don't Really Know What Cues Cause You To Recognize That Person.

The Conclusion Is Straightforward : Self-control Requires Attention And Effort.

Ten Minutes Of A Smartphone In Front Of Your Nose Is About The Equivalent Of An Hour Long Walk In Bright Daylight. Imagine Going For An Hour Long Walk In Bright Daylight And Then Thinking, "now I'll Get Some Sleep." It Ain't Going To Happen.

People Are Really Happier With Friends Than They Are With Their Families Or Their Spouse Or Their Child.