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The Goal In Raising One's Child Is To Enable Him, First, To Discover Who He Wants To Be, And Then To Become A Person Who Can Be Satisfied With Himself And His Way Of Life. Eventually He Ought To Be Able To Do In His Life Whatever Seems Important, Desirable, And Worthwhile To Him To Do; To Develop Relations With Other People That Are Constructive, Satisfying, Mutually Enriching; And To Bear Up Well Under The Stresses And Hardships He Will Unavoidably Encounter During His Life.

Parents Ought, Through Their Own Behavior And The Values By Which They Live, To Provide Direction For Their Children. But They Need To Rid Themselves Of The Idea That There Are Surefire Methods Which, When Well Applied, Will Produce Certain Predictable Results. Whatever We Do With And For Our Children Ought To Flow From Our Understanding Of And Our Feelings For The Particular Situation And The Relation We Wish To Exist Between Us And Our Child.

Not Only Is Our Love For Our Children Sometimes Tinged With Annoyance, Discouragement, And Disappointment, The Same Is True For The Love Our Children Feel For Us.

A Child... Who Has Learned From Fairy Stories To Believe That What At First Seemed A Repulsive, Threatening Figure Can Magically Change Into A Most Helpful Friend Is Ready To Believe That A Strange Child Whom He Meets And Fears May Also Be Changed From A Menace Into A Desirable Companion.

For Those Who Immerse Themselves In What The Fairy Tale Has To Communicate, It Becomes A Deep, Quiet Pool Which At First Seems To Reflect Only Our Own Image; But Behind It We Soon Discover The Inner Turmoils Of Our Soul - Its Depth, And Ways To Gain Peace Within Ourselves And With The World, Which Is The Reward Of Our Struggles.