The Child Intuitively Comprehends That Although These

The Good Enough Mother, Owing To Her Deep Empathy With Her Infant, Reflects In Her Face His Feelings; This Is Why He Sees Himselfin Her Face As If In A Mirror And Finds Himself As He Sees Himself In Her. The Not Good Enough Mother Fails To Reflect The Infant's Feelings In Her Face Because She Is Too Preoccupied With Her Own Concerns, Such As Her Worries Over Whether She Is Doing Right By Her Child, Her Anxiety That She Might Fail Him.

This Is Exactly The Message That Fairy Tales Get Across To The Child In Manifold Form: That A Struggle Against Severe Difficulties In Life Is Unavoidable, Is An Intrinsic Part Of Human Existence -- But That If One Does Not Shy Away, But Steadfastly Meets Unexpected And Often Unjust Hardships, One Masters All Obstacles And At The End Emerges Victorious.

To Be A Good Enough Parent One Must Be Able To Feel Secure In One's Parenthood, And One's Relation To One's Child...the Security Of The Parent About Being A Parent Will Eventually Become The Source Of The Child's Feeling Secure About Himself.

Since There Are Thousands Of Fairy Tales, One May Safely Guess That There Are Probably Equal Numbers Where The Courage And Determination Of Females Rescue Males, And Vice Versa.

While Criticism Or Fear Of Punishment May Restrain Us From Doing Wrong, It Does Not Make Us Wish To Do Right. Disregarding This Simple Fact Is The Great Error Into Which Parents And Educators Fall When They Rely On These Negative Means Of Correction. The Only Effective Discipline Is Self-discipline, Motivated By The Inner Desire To Act Meritoriously In Order To Do Well In One's Own Eyes, According To One's Own Values, So That One May Feel Good About Oneself May "have A Good Conscience.