The Trance Of Unworthiness Keeps The Sweetness

When Desire For A Certain Person's Attention Becomes An "i Have To Have" Kind Of Grasping, Then Identity Gets Organized Around Needing That And It Becomes Very Solid And Sticky. That Causes Suffering Because We're Not Inhabiting The Fullness Of Who We Are, We're Fixated And Contracted On Life Being A Certain Way.

We Want To Be In Open, Loving Communion With Each Other And Our Greatest Fear Is Intimacy. That It Won't Work And We'll Be Rejected.

The Spiritual Path Is Not A Solo Endeavor. In Fact, The Very Notion Of A Self Who Is Trying To Free Her/ Himself Is A Delusion. We Are In It Together And The Company Of Spiritual Friends Helps Us Realize Our Interconnectedness.

I Sometimes Call This Our "spacesuit Self" Because We Come Into An Environment That Is Difficult And Challenging, Where We're Told To Be Different. We're Told To Jump Over Hoops To Be Loved And Appreciated, So We Have To Develop Spacesuit Strategies To Get Approval And Create Ways To Avoid Being Judged.

Offer Some Gesture Of Kindness To Yourself. Sometimes It's Just A Message, To Say: "it's Okay. You're Going To Be Okay. We've Been Through This Before." The Intention Is Reassurance, That You Are Not Alone And You Can Do This. It Is The Most Powerful Way To Come Out Of What I Call The "trance Of Unworthiness."