The Parent Must Not Give In To

The Parent Must Not Give In To His Desire To Try To Create The Child He Would Like To Have, But Rather Help The Child To Develop--in His Own Good Time--to The Fullest, Into What He Wishes To Be And Can Be, In Line With His Natural Endowment And As The Consequence Of His Unique Life In History.

To Be A Good Enough Parent One Must Be Able To Feel Secure In One's Parenthood, And One's Relation To One's Child...the Security Of The Parent About Being A Parent Will Eventually Become The Source Of The Child's Feeling Secure About Himself.

Among The Most Valuable But Least Appreciated Experiences Parenthood Can Provide Are The Opportunities It Offers For Exploring, Reliving, And Resolving One's Own Childhood Problems In The Context Of One's Relation To One's Child.

This Is Exactly The Message That Fairy Tales Get Across To The Child In Manifold Form: That A Struggle Against Severe Difficulties In Life Is Unavoidable, Is An Intrinsic Part Of Human Existence -- But That If One Does Not Shy Away, But Steadfastly Meets Unexpected And Often Unjust Hardships, One Masters All Obstacles And At The End Emerges Victorious.

For Those Who Immerse Themselves In What The Fairy Tale Has To Communicate, It Becomes A Deep, Quiet Pool Which At First Seems To Reflect Only Our Own Image; But Behind It We Soon Discover The Inner Turmoils Of Our Soul - Its Depth, And Ways To Gain Peace Within Ourselves And With The World, Which Is The Reward Of Our Struggles.