Play Reaches The Habits Most Needed For

As Anna Freud Remarked, The Toddler Who Wanders Off Into Some Other Aisle, Feels Lost, And Screams Anxiously For His Mother Neversays "i Got Lost," But Accusingly Says "you Lost Me!" It Is A Rare Mother Who Agrees That She Lost Him! She Expects Her Child To Stay With Her; In Her Experience It Is The Child Who Has Lost Track Of The Mother, While In The Child's Experience It Is The Mother Who Has Lost Track Of Him. Each View Is Entirely Correct From The Perspective Of The Individual Who Holds It .

Punishment May Make Us Obey The Orders We Are Given, But At Best It Will Only Teach An Obedience To Authority, Not A Self-control Which Enhances Our Self-respect.

The Good Enough Parent, In Addition To Being Convinced That Whatever His Child Does, He Does It Because At That Moment He Is Convinced This Is The Best He Can Do, Will Also Ask Himself: "what In The World Would Make Me Act As My Child Acts At This Moment? And If I Felt Forced To Act This Way, What Would Make Me Feel Better About It?

The Ability To Read Becomes Devalued When What One Has Learned To Read Adds Nothing Of Importance To One's Life.

The Good Enough Mother, Owing To Her Deep Empathy With Her Infant, Reflects In Her Face His Feelings; This Is Why He Sees Himselfin Her Face As If In A Mirror And Finds Himself As He Sees Himself In Her. The Not Good Enough Mother Fails To Reflect The Infant's Feelings In Her Face Because She Is Too Preoccupied With Her Own Concerns, Such As Her Worries Over Whether She Is Doing Right By Her Child, Her Anxiety That She Might Fail Him.