Awakening Self-compassion Is Often The Greatest Challenge

If You Let Someone Know You Appreciate Him Or Her, Especially When You're Going To Disagree, It Gets That Person's Defenses Down.

Offer Some Gesture Of Kindness To Yourself. Sometimes It's Just A Message, To Say: "it's Okay. You're Going To Be Okay. We've Been Through This Before." The Intention Is Reassurance, That You Are Not Alone And You Can Do This. It Is The Most Powerful Way To Come Out Of What I Call The "trance Of Unworthiness."

My First Book, 'radical Acceptance', Grew Out Of The Suffering Of Feeling Personally Deficient And Unworthy. Because Most Of Us Are So Quick To Turn Against Ourselves, The Teachings And Practices Of Radical Acceptance Continue As A Strong Current In 'true Refuge': Nurturing A Forgiving, Understanding Heart Is A Basic Step On The Path.

If Our Hearts Are Ready For Anything, We Can Open To Our Inevitable Losses, And To The Depths Of Our Sorrow. We Can Grieve Our Lost Loves, Our Lost Youth, Our Lost Health, Our Lost Capacities. This Is Part Of Our Humanness, Part Of The Expression Of Our Love For Life.

Even A Few Moments Of Offering Lovingkindness Can Reconnect You With The Purity Of Your Loving Heart.