We Are Waiting For The Next Moment

By Regarding Ourselves With Kindness, We Begin To Dissolve The Identity Of An Isolated, Deficient Self. This Creates The Grounds For Including Others In An Unconditionally Loving Heart.

Most Of Us Grew Up With A Very Damaging Story That Something Is Wrong With Us. Gradually - Or As In My Case, Suddenly - We Become Resolved Not To Believe This Anymore. It Takes A Dedicated Practice To Follow Up On That Resolution, Because The Conditioning Is Very Strong To Keep Generating Self-demeaning Stories.

I Think The Reason Buddhism And Western Psychology Are So Compatible Is That Western Psychology Helps To Identify The Stories And The Patterns In Our Personal Lives, But What Buddhist Awareness Training Does Is It Actually Allows The Person To Develop Skills To Stay In What's Going On.

I Think It's Possible To Have Experiences Of Love Without Attachment, But I Think Part Of Our Conditioning Is To Grasp At Times, Especially When There Are Unmet Needs. It's Part Of Our Nervous System To Hold On To Where We Think Those Needs Will Be Met.

The Muscles Used To Make A Smile Actually Send A Biochemical Message To Our Nervous System That It Is Safe To Relax The Flight Of Freeze Response.