When Someone Says To Us, As Thich

The Emotion Of Fear Often Works Overtime. Even When There Is No Immediate Threat, Our Body May Remain Tight And On Guard, Our Mind Narrowed To Focus On What Might Go Wrong. When This Happens, Fear Is No Longer Functioning To Secure Our Survival. We Are Caught In The Trance Of Fear And Our Moment-to-moment Experience Becomes Bound In Reactivity. We Spend Our Time And Energy Defending Our Life Rather Than Living It Fully.

Imagine You Are Walking In The Woods And You See A Small Dog Sitting By A Tree. As You Approach It, It Suddenly Lunges At You, Teeth Bared. You Are Frightened And Angry. But Then You Notice That One Of Its Legs Is Caught In A Trap. Immediately Your Mood Shifts From Anger To Concern: You See That The Dog's Aggression Is Coming From A Place Of Vulnerability And Pain. This Applies To All Of Us. When We Behave In Hurtful Ways, It Is Because We Are Caught In Some Kind Of Trap. The More We Look Through The Eyes Of Wisdom At Ourselves And One Another, The More We Cultivate A Compassionate Heart.

Pain Is Not Wrong. Reacting To Pain As Wrong Initiates The Trance Of Unworthiness. The Moment We Believe Something Is Wrong, Our World Shrinks And We Lose Ourselves In The Effort To Combat The Pain.

I Mentioned Earlier The Two Wings Of Awareness. The First Step Is Recognizing The Fear Of Getting Close To Others - This Honest Witnessing Of Where It Is In The Body, Where It Is In Your Beliefs.the Other Wing Regards What's Seen With Kindness And Compassion.

I Speak A Lot About What I Call "the Trance Of Unworthiness" Which Is Really Epidemic In Our Culture, This Sense Of "i'm Not Enough," Or "something's Wrong With Me." Most Of Us Have Some Level Of It Because Our Culture Has All These Standards (handed Down Through Our Families) Of What It Means To Be Okay.