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Children Cannot Be Fooled By Empty Praise And Condescending Encouragement. They May Have To Accept Artificial Bolstering Of Their Self-esteem In Lieu Of Something Better, But What I Call Their Accruing Ego Identity Gains Real Strength Only From Wholehearted And Consistent Recognition Of Real Accomplishment, That Is, Achievement That Has Meaning In Their Culture.

It's A Long Haul Bringing Up Our Children To Be Good; You Have To Keep Doing That — Bring Them Up — And That Means Bringing Things Up With Them: Asking, Telling, Sounding Them Out, Sounding Off Yourself — Finding, Through Experience, Your Own Words, Your Own Way Of Putting Them Together. You Have To Learn Where You Stand, And Make Sure Your Kids Learn [where You Stand], Understand Why, And Soon, You Hope, They'll Be Standing There Beside You, With You.

If One Sees The Personality Not As An Apparatus That Is Essentially Constructed By The Time Childhood Is Over, But As Always In Its Essence Developing, Then Life At 25 Or 30 Or At The Gateway To Middle Age Will Stimulate Its Own Intrigue, Surprise, And Exhilaration Of Discovery.

The Growing Child Must Derive A Vitalizing Sense Of Reality From The Awareness That His Individual Way Of Mastering Experience (his Ego Synthesis) Is A Successful Variant Of A Group Identity And Is In Accord With Its Space-time And Life Plan.

In The Social Jungle Of Human Existence, There Is No Feeling Of Being Alive Without A Sense Of Identity.