If One Sees The Personality Not As

Children Cannot Be Fooled By Empty Praise And Condescending Encouragement. They May Have To Accept Artificial Bolstering Of Their Self-esteem In Lieu Of Something Better, But What I Call Their Accruing Ego Identity Gains Real Strength Only From Wholehearted And Consistent Recognition Of Real Accomplishment, That Is, Achievement That Has Meaning In Their Culture.

In The Social Jungle Of Human Existence, There Is No Feeling Of Being Alive Without A Sense Of Identity.

Do Not Mistake A Child For His Symptom.

The Growing Child Must Derive A Vitalizing Sense Of Reality From The Awareness That His Individual Way Of Mastering Experience (his Ego Synthesis) Is A Successful Variant Of A Group Identity And Is In Accord With Its Space-time And Life Plan.

Will, Therefore, Is The Unbroken Determination To Exercise Free Choice As Well As Self-restraint, In Spite Of The Unavoidable Experience Of Shame And Doubt In Infancy.