Unless, Of Course, You Insist On Identifying

People Are Terrified Of Other People Or Difficult Projects Because They Tell Themselves That They Could Fail Or Be Rejected. Failure Can Lead To Sorrow, Regret, Frustration And Annoyance - All Healthy, Negative Feelings Without Which People Couldn't Exist. But Then They Add, "i Absolutely Must Succeed And Must Be Loved By Significant Persons, And If I Don't, It's Terrible And I'm No Good." Those Are Irrational Beliefs. As Long As People Keep Them, They'll Be Terrified Of Life And Will Put Themselves Down When They Get Rejected.

Acceptance Is Not Love. You Love A Person Because He Or She Has Lovable Traits, But You Accept Everybody Just Because They're Alive And Human.

I'm One Of The Best-loved Psychologists In The United States, But I'm Also Probably The Most Hated One.

People Don't Just Get Upset. They Contribute To Their Upsetness. They Always Have The Power To Think, And To Think About Their Thinking, And To Think About Thinking About Their Thinking, Which The Goddamn Dolphin, As Far As We Know, Can't Do. Therefore They Have Much Greater Ability To Change Themselves Than Any Other Animal Has.

The World Consists Mainly Of Love Slobs Who Need Other People's Approval. Most People Don't Live Their Own Lives Very Well.