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Marriages Are Always Moving From One Season To Another. Sometimes We Find Ourselves In Winter--discouraged, Detached, And Dissatisfied; Other Times We Experience Springtime, With Its Openness, Hope, And Anticipation. On Still Other Occasions We Bask In The Warmth Of Summer--comfortable, Relaxed, Enjoying Life. And Then Comes Fall With Its Uncertainty, Negligence, And Apprehension. The Cycle Repeats Itself Many Times Throughout The Life Of A Marriage, Just As The Seasons Repeat Themselves In Nature.

The Pattern Often Has Been Entrenched Since Childhood... [abusive People] Don't Think That There Is Anything Wrong With Them Because That Is The Way They Were Brought Up In Their Family.

Respect Begins With This Attitude: "i Acknowledge That You Are A Creature Of Extreme Worth. God Has Endowed You With Certain Abilities And Emotions. Therefore I Respect You As A Person. I Will Not Desecrate Your Worth By Making Critical Remarks About Your Intellect, Your Judgment Or Your Logic. I Will Seek To Understand You And Grant You The Freedom To Think Differently From The Way I Think And To Experience Emotions That I May Not Experience." Respect Means That You Give The Other Person The Freedom To Be An Individual.

The Getting Out Part [of Advise] May Well Be True. Because If You Have Tried The Tender Love Thing... Typically The Abuser Is Not Going To Change Until They Are Pushed In A Corner.

Forgiveness Is Not A Feeling; It Is A Commitment.