What We Do For Each Other Before

I Think Another [myth] Is That Some Marriages Are Just Hopeless. This Is A Common Thing I Hear From People, "well, I Just Think There Are Some Marriages That Are Hopeless, Dr. Chapman, Don't You Agree With That?" I Say I Understand The Feeling, But The Fact Is That There Are No Marriages That Are Hopeless.

Encouragement Requires Empathy And Seeing The World From Your Spouse's Perspective. We Must First Learn What Is Important To Our Spouse. Only Then Can We Give Encouragement. With Verbal Encouragement, We Are Trying To Communicate, "i Know. I Care. I Am With You. How Can I Help?" We Are Trying To Show That We Believe In Him And In His Abilities. We Are Giving Credit And Praise.

By Nature, Most People Are Controlled By Their Emotions. They Feel Sad, So They Look Sad.

Respect Begins With This Attitude: "i Acknowledge That You Are A Creature Of Extreme Worth. God Has Endowed You With Certain Abilities And Emotions. Therefore I Respect You As A Person. I Will Not Desecrate Your Worth By Making Critical Remarks About Your Intellect, Your Judgment Or Your Logic. I Will Seek To Understand You And Grant You The Freedom To Think Differently From The Way I Think And To Experience Emotions That I May Not Experience." Respect Means That You Give The Other Person The Freedom To Be An Individual.

If We Are To Develop An Intimate Relationship, We Need To Know Each Other's Desires. If We Wish To Love Each Other, We Need To Know What The Other Person Wants.