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You Don't Pigeonhole Yourself, People Pigeonhole You. If The World Is Not At A Place Yet Where It Can Just Be Like, "this Music Is Gay And It's Music," Then It's Not My Fault That It Gets Pigeonholed, It's Not The People In The Band's Fault, It's Because People Won't Just Let Music Be Music, People Who Need To Put A Name On Something Or To Critique Something.

In Moments When I Question If I Should Be Having Kids, I Think Of All Those Phone Calls From My Sister-in-law, In Which, 3,000 Miles Away, I Hear My Nephews Screaming For Her Attention. I Tell Her I Have To Go Because I Am Packing To Leave For Europe, And Her Tone Flatlines: "that Must Be Nice."

I Have A Lot Of Feminist Idols. My Favorite Thing About Growing Up In Arkansas - Well, Not Favorite But Something I've Always Felt Grateful For - Was That I Really Had To Dig For What I Could. There Was No Internet. There Wasn't Tons Of Feminist Literature Floating Around.

I Knew That If I Wanted To Stop Being A Pushover I Had To Get Comfortable With Small Rejections Myself. That Took Some Work, But Because Of It I Can Now Say No To Other People With A Clear Conscience.

I Feel Sorry... For People Who've Had Skinny Privilege And Then Have It Taken Away From Them. I Have Had A Lifetime To Adjust To Seeing How People Treat Women Who Aren't Their Idea Of Beautiful And Therefore Aren't Their Idea Of Useful, And I Had To Find Ways To Become Useful To Myself.