The Person Who Is "in-love" Has The

I Wrote This Book [ Desperate Marriages] Because Of My Own Marriage. My Wife And I Struggled Greatly In The Early Years Of Marriage. In Spite Of The Fact That We Were Christians Before We Got Married, We Prayed About Getting Married, We Believed It Was God's Will For Us To Get Married, And We Still Had Great Struggles.

If You Grew Up In A Dysfunctional Family, Then There Is Really No Hope For You To Have A Good Relationship. That Is Another Myth That We Have To Throw Off, So That We Can Get Into What I Call Reality.

Encouragement Requires Empathy And Seeing The World From Your Spouse's Perspective. We Must First Learn What Is Important To Our Spouse. Only Then Can We Give Encouragement. With Verbal Encouragement, We Are Trying To Communicate, "i Know. I Care. I Am With You. How Can I Help?" We Are Trying To Show That We Believe In Him And In His Abilities. We Are Giving Credit And Praise.

I Think One Of The Other Myths Is That Your Environment Determines Your Happiness. That If You Are Living With An Alcoholic Or Living With A Depressed Spouse For A Long Time, You Are Just Going To Be Unhappy.

Once You Identify And Learn To Speak Your Spouse’s Primary Love Language, I Believe That You Will Have Discovered The Key To A Long-lasting, Loving Marriage. Love Need Not Evaporate After The Wedding, But In Order To Keep It Alive Most Of Us Will Have To Put Forth Effort To Learn A Secondary Love Language. We Cannot Rely On Our Native Tongue If Our Spouse Does Not Understand It. If We Want Them To Feel The Love We Are Trying To Communicate, We Must Express It In His Or Her Primary Love Language.