The Child Has A Primary Need To

Where There Had Been Only Fearful Emptiness Or Equally Frightening Grandiose Fan­tasies, An Unexpected Wealth Of Vitality Is Now Discovered. This Is Not A Homecoming, Since This Home Has Never Before Existed. It Is The Creation Of Home.

Almost Everywhere We Find . . . The Use Of Various Coercive Measures, To Rid Ourselves As Quickly As Possible Of The Child Withinus--i.e., The Weak, Helpless, Dependent Creature--in Order To Become An Independent Competent Adult Deserving Of Respect. When We Reencounter This Creature In Our Children, We Persecute It With The Same Measures Once Used In Ourselves.

Every Life And Every Childhood Is Filled With Frustrations; We Cannot Imagine It Otherwise, For Even The Best Mother Cannot Satisfy All Her Child's Wishes And Needs. It Is Not The Suffering Caused By Frustration, However, That Leads To Emotional Illness, But Rather The Fact That The Child Is Forbidden By The Parents To Experience And Articulate This Suffering, The Pain Felt At Being Wounded.

Contempt Is The Weapon Of The Weak And A Defense Against One's Own Despised And Unwanted Feelings.

An Unacknowledged Trauma Is Like A Wound That Never Heals Over And May Start To Bleed Again At Any Time.