Real Love" - "this Kind Of Love

In A Difficult Marriage, Both Of Us Have Failed Each Other. Even Though One May Be The Major Problem,you Also Have Failed Often In The Way You Have Responded To Them, The Way You Have Treated Them, In The Way You Have Handled Your Hurt And Your Pain.

Togetherness Has To Do With Focused Attention. It Is Giving Someone Your Undivided Attention. As Humans, We Have A Fundamental Desire To Connect With Others. We May Be In The Presence Of People All Day Long, But We Do Not Always Feel Connected.

Love Is Reaching Out To Try To Get To The Other Person.

Over The Long Haul, Many Of Those People [in A Difficult Marriage] Will Begin To Reciprocate, Because You Are Meeting A Basic Need In Their Life, The Need For Love, And They Know They Don't Deserve Love Many Times.

When People Respond Too Quickly, They Often Respond To The Wrong Issue. Listening Helps Us Focus On The Heart Of The Conflict. When We Listen, Understand, And Respect Each Other's Ideas, We Can Then Find A Solution In Which Both Of Us Are Winners.