Only When A Woman Shares Male Risks

Why Do We Resist Giving Help To Homeless Men? In Part Because We Don't Understand How Our Pressure On Men To Support Families Often Forces Men To Take Transient Jobs That Are But A Step Away From Homelessness (the Death-of-a-salesman Jobs, The Migrant Worker Jobs...) And In Part Because We Respond Differently To Men Who Fail [than Women Who Fail].

Survey 2001: Men Who Never Married, Never Had A Child, Worked Full Time And Were College Educated Earn Only 85% Of What Women With The Same Criteria Earn.

Women's Scars And Rituals Involved Beauty (piercing Ears And Noses, Binding Feet, And Wearing Corsets); Men's Involved Protecting Women. In Cultures In Which Physical Strength Is Still The Best Way To Protect Women, As Among The Dodos In Uganda, Each Time A Man Kills A Man, He Is Awarded A Ritual Scar; The More Scars, The More He Is Considered Eligible.

As I Looked More Carefully At The Listening Matrix I Saw That During The Past Twenty Years We Had Taken A Magnifying Glass To The First Of These Four Quadrants, The Female Experience Of Powerlessness. I Saw I Was Subconsciously Making A False Assumption: The More Deeply I Understood Women's Experience Of Powerlessness, The More I Assumed Men Had The Power Women Did Not Have. In Fact, What I Was Understanding Was The Female Experience Of Male Power.

With Men, We Blame The Victim. We Blame Men Because We Have Camouflaged Men's Victimization By Teaching Men To Also Be The Victimizer. Men's Victimizer Status Camouflages Men's Victim Status.