One [reality] Is That I Am Responsible

The Getting Out Part [of Advise] May Well Be True. Because If You Have Tried The Tender Love Thing... Typically The Abuser Is Not Going To Change Until They Are Pushed In A Corner.

We Can Certainly See Contemporary Examples Of People Who Radically Change. As Long You Believe Your Spouse Will Never Change And You Keep Telling Yourself That, Then You Live With No Hope. But If You Understand That That's A Myth, Then You Open Up The Door To Hope.

In A Difficult Marriage, Both Of Us Have Failed Each Other. Even Though One May Be The Major Problem,you Also Have Failed Often In The Way You Have Responded To Them, The Way You Have Treated Them, In The Way You Have Handled Your Hurt And Your Pain.

Togetherness Has To Do With Focused Attention. It Is Giving Someone Your Undivided Attention. As Humans, We Have A Fundamental Desire To Connect With Others. We May Be In The Presence Of People All Day Long, But We Do Not Always Feel Connected.

If You Grew Up In A Dysfunctional Family, Then There Is Really No Hope For You To Have A Good Relationship. That Is Another Myth That We Have To Throw Off, So That We Can Get Into What I Call Reality.