It Takes One Person To Forgive, It

I Worry About Fast Forgivers. They Tend To Forgive Quickly In Order To Avoid Their Pain. Or They Forgive Fast In Order To Get An Advantage Over The People They Forgive. And Their Instant Forgiving Only Makes Things Worse... People Who Have Been Wronged Badly And Wounded Deeply Should Give Themselves Time And Space Before They Forgive... There Is A Right Moment To Forgive. We Cannot Predict It In Advance; We Can Only Get Ourselves Ready For It When It Arrives... Don't Do It Quickly, But Don't Wait Too Long.

Forgiveness Is The Key That Can Unshackle Us From A Past That Will Not Rest In The Grave Of Things Over And Done With. As Long As Our Minds Are Captive To The Memory Of Having Been Wronged, They Are Not Free To Wish For Reconciliation With The One Who Wronged Us.

Forgiveness Is God's Invention For Coming To Terms With A World In Which People Are Unfair To Each Other And Hurt Each Other Deeply. He Began By Forgiving Us. And He Invites Us All To Forgive Each Other.

The Difference Between Guilt And Shame Is Very Clear--in Theory. We Feel Guilty For What We Do. We Feel Shame For What We Are. A Person Feels Guilt Because He Did Something Wrong. A Person Feels Shame Because He Is Something Wrong. We May Feel Guilty Because We Lied To Our Mother. We May Feel Shame Because We Are Not The Person Our Mother Wanted Us To Be.

You Can Forgive Someone Almost Anything. But You Cannot Tolerate Everything...we Don't Have To Tolerate What People Do Just Because We Forgive Them For Doing It. Forgiving Heals Us Personally. To Tolerate Everything Only Hurts Us All In The Long Run.