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When You Give Up Vengeance, Make Sure You Are Not Giving Up On Justice. The Line Between The Two Is Faint, Unsteady, And Fine...vengeance Is Our Own Pleasure Of Seeing Someone Who Hurt Us Getting It Back And Then Some. Justice, On The Other Hand, Is Secure When Someone Pays A Fair Penalty For Wronging Another Even If The Injured Person Takes No Pleasure In The Transaction. Vengeance Is Personal Satisfaction. Justice Is Moral Accounting...human Forgiveness Does Not Do Away With Human Justice.

I Worry About Fast Forgivers. They Tend To Forgive Quickly In Order To Avoid Their Pain. Or They Forgive Fast In Order To Get An Advantage Over The People They Forgive. And Their Instant Forgiving Only Makes Things Worse... People Who Have Been Wronged Badly And Wounded Deeply Should Give Themselves Time And Space Before They Forgive... There Is A Right Moment To Forgive. We Cannot Predict It In Advance; We Can Only Get Ourselves Ready For It When It Arrives... Don't Do It Quickly, But Don't Wait Too Long.

When Forgiveness Is Necessary, Don't Wait Too Long. We Must Begin To Forgive, Because Without Forgiving, We Choke Off Our Own Joy; We Kill Our Own Soul. People Carrying Hate And Resentment Can Invest Themselves So Deeply In That Resentment That They Gradually Define Themselves In Terms Of It.

We Feel Properly Embarrassed When We Are Caught Doing Something That Makes Us Look Inept, Knuckleheaded, Or Inappropriate. Maybe The Difference Is This: We Feel Embarrassed Because We Look Bad, And We Feel Shame Because We Think We Are Bad. When We Are Embarrassed, We Feel Socially Foolish. When We Are Shamed, We Feel Morally Unworthy.

The Moments Of Grace Usually Give Us More Than One Good Thing We Can Do, And We Do Well If We Manage A Pretty Good Batting Average. ... It Is An Opportunity That God Sews Into The Fabric Of A Routine Situations - It Is A Chance To Do Something Creative, Something Helpful, Something Healing, Something That Makes One Unmarked Spot In The World Better Off For Our Having Been There.