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Adolescents' Immature Thinking Makes It Difficult For Them To Process The Divorce. They Tend To See Things In Black-and-white Terms And Have Trouble Putting Events Into Perspective. They Are Absolute In Their Judgments And Expect Perfection In Parents. They Are Likely To Be Self-conscious About Their Parent's Failures And Critical Of Their Every Move. They Have The Expectations That Parents Will Keep Them Safe And Happy And Are Shocked By The Broken Covenant. Adolescents Are Unforgiving.

In All The Years I've Been A Therapist, I've Yet To Meet One Girl Who Likes Her Body.

Adolescence Is A Time When Children Are Supposed To Move Away From Parents Who Are Holding Firm And Protective Behind Them. When The Parents Disconnect, The Children Have No Base To Move Away From Or Return To. They Aren't Ready To Face The World Alone. With Divorce, Adolescents Feel Abandoned, And They Are Outraged At That Abandonment. They Are Angry At Both Parents For Letting Them Down. Often They Feel That Their Parents Broke The Rules And So Now They Can Too.

One Important Reason To Stay Calm Is That Calm Parents Hear More. Low-key, Accepting Parents Are The Ones Whose Children Keep Talking.

Parents Wrongly Assume That Their Daughters Live In A World Similar To The One They Experienced As Adolescents. They Are Dead Wrong. Their Daughters Live In A Media-drenched World Floded With Junk Values. As Girls Turn From Their Parents, They Turn To This World For Guidance About How To Be An Adult.