If More Women Are In Leadership Roles,

It's Hard To Visualize Someone As A Leader, If She Is Always Waiting To Be Told What To Do.

The Traditional Metaphor For Careers Is A Ladder, But I No Longer Think That Metaphor Holds. It Just Doesn’t Make Sense In A Less Hierarchical World... Build Your Skills, Not Your Resume. Evaluate What You Can Do, Not The Title They’re Going To Give You. Do Real Work. Take A Sales Quota, A Line Role, An Ops Job. Don’t Plan Too Much, And Don’t Expect A Direct Climb. If I Had Mapped Out My Career When I Was Sitting Where You Are, I Would Have Missed My Career.

I Tell People In Their Careers, 'look For Growth. Look For The Teams That Are Growing Quickly. Look For The Companies That Are Doing Well. Look For A Place Where You Feel That You Can Have A Lot Of Impact.'

When Looking For A Life Partner, My Advice To Women Is Date All Of Them: The Bad Boys, The Cool Boys, The Commitment-phobic Boys, The Crazy Boys. But Do Not Marry Them. The Things That Make The Bad Boys Sexy Do Not Make Them Good Husbands. When It Comes Time To Settle Down, Find Someone Who Wants An Equal Partner. Someone Who Thinks Women Should Be Smart, Opinionated And Ambitious. Someone Who Values Fairness And Expects Or, Even Better, Wants To Do His Share In The Home. These Men Exist And, Trust Me, Over Time, Nothing Is Sexier.

Let's Acknowledge That Men Reach For Opportunities More Quickly And More Easily Than Women. So Often As Managers, We Give The Job To Whoever Starts Solving The Problem, To Whoever Jumps In. Since We Know Men Will Jump In Faster Than Women In So Many Circumstances, We Have To Slow Down And Encourage More Women To Sit At More Tables.