Disrespect Is The Weapon Of The Weak

The Grandiose Person Is Never Really Free; First Because He Is Excessively Dependent On Admiration From Others, And Second, Because His Self-respect Is Dependent On Qualities, Functions, And Achievements That Can Suddenly Fail.

People Whose Integrity Has Not Been Damaged In Childhood, Who Were Protected, Respected, And Treated With Honesty By Their Parents, Will Be-both In Their Youth And In Adulthood-intelligent, Responsive, Empathic, And Highly Sensitive. They Will Take Pleasure In Life And Will Not Feel Any Need To Kill Or Even Hurt Others Or Themselves. They Will Use Their Power To Defend Themselves, Not To Attack Others. They Will Not Be Able To Do Otherwise Than Respect And Protect Those Weaker Than Themselves, Including Their Children, Because This Is What They Have Learned From Their Own Experience.

If We Do Not Work On All Three Levels -- Body, Feeling, Mind -- The Symptoms Of Our Distress Will Keep Returning, As The Body Goes On Repeating The Story Stored In Its Cells Until It Is Finally Listened To And Understood.

Quite Often I Have Been Faced With People Who Were Praised And Admired For Their Talents And Their Achievements... According To Prevailing Attitudes, These People-the Pride And Joy Of Their Parents-should Have Had A Strong And Stable Sense Of Self-assurance. But The Case Is Exactly The Opposite... Whenever They Suddenly Get The Feeling They Have Failed To Live Up To Some Ideal Image Or Have Not Measured Up To Some Standard, Then They Are Plagued By Anxiety Or Deep Feelings Of Guilt And Shame. What Are The Reasons For Such Disturbances In These Competent, Accomplished People?

The Knowledge That You Were Beaten And That This, As Your Parents Tell You, Was For Your Own Good May Well Be Retained (although Not Always), But The Suffering Caused By The Way You Were Mistreated Will Remain Unconscious And Will Later Prevent You From Empathizing With Others. This Is Why Battered Children Grow Up To Be Mothers And Fathers Who Beat Their Offspring