Choosing Is A Creative Process, One Through

The Saying Goes That History Repeats Itself; Personal Histories Do The Same. We Can Gather The Lessons Of Others' Lives Through Observation, Conversation, And By Seeking Advice. We Can Use The Automatic System To Find Out Who The Happy People Are, And The Reflective System To Evaluate How They Got To Be That Way. Pursuing Happiness Need Not Be A Lonely Endeavor. In Fact, Throwing In Our Lot With Others May Be A Very Good Way Of Coping With The Disappointments Of Choice.

You Know, You Take A Little Infant And You Turn On The Music Mobile On Their Crib And You Find That If You Give Them A Music Mobile Which Turns On Automatically Versus A Music Mobile In Which - If By Chance Their Little Legs Or Their Little Hands Accidentally Touches It - Turns On They're So Much More Excited If By Chance It Turns On Because They Touched It, So That Desire For Control Over Their Environment Is... Really Appears From Very Early On And If You Look At Children's First Words, "no, Yes."

My Child's First Word Was "more," But And It's All About, "i Want." "i'm Going To Tell You What I Want And What I Don't Want." It's About My Desire To Express My Preferences. And That Is Really Innate.

It's Easy To Assume People Are Conforming When We Witness Them All Choosing The Same Option, But When We Choose That Very Option Ourselves, We Have No Shortage Of Perfectly Good Reasons For Why We Just Happen To Be Doing The Same Thing As Those Other People; They Mindlessly Conform, But We Mindfully Choose. This Doesn't Mean That We're All Conformists In Denial. It Means That We Regularly Fail To Recognize That Others' Thoughts And Behaviors Are Just As Complex And Varied As Our Own. Rather Than Being Alone In A Crowd Of Sheep, We're All Individuals In Sheep's Clothing.

The Key To Getting The Most From Choice Is To Be Choosy About Choosing.