You Will Know That Forgiveness Has Begun

My Wife Has Lived With At Least Five Different Men Since We Were Wed - And Each Of The Five Has Been Me.

With A Little Time, And A Little More Insight, We Begin To See Both Ourselves And Our Enemies In Humbler Profiles. We Are Not Really As Innocent As We Felt When We Were First Hurt. And We Do Not Usually Have A Gigantic Monster To Forgive; We Have A Weak, Needy, And Somewhat Stupid Human Being. When You See Your Enemy And Yourself In The Weakness And Silliness Of The Humanity You Share, You Will Make The Miracle Of Forgiving A Little Easier.

We Attach Our Feelings To The Moment When We Were Hurt, Endowing It With Immortality. And We Let It Assault Us Every Time It Comes To Mind. It Travels With Us, Sleeps With Us, Hovers Over Us While We Make Love, And Broods Over Us While We Die. Our Hate Does Not Even Have The Decency To Die When Those We Hate Die-for It Is A Parasite Sucking Our Blood, Not Theirs. There Is Only One Remedy For It. [forgiveness]

Because Arrogance Is Born In Personal Vanity, Arrogant People Are Driven Without Mercy. They Can Never Get Enough Power To Fill The Soul's Needs Or Enough Respect To Overcome The Fear That They Deserve Less Than They Are Getting.

When We Forgive Someone, We Do Not Forget The Hurtful Act, As If Forgetting Came Along With The Forgiveness Package, The Way Strings Come With A Violin. Begin With The Basics. If You Forget, You Will Not Forgive At All. You Can Never Forgive People For Things You Have Forgotten About. You Need To Forgive Precisely Because You Have Not Forgotten What Someone Did; Your Memory Keeps The Pain Alive Long After The Hurt Has Stopped. Remembering Is The Storage Of Pain. It Is Why You Need To Be Healed In The First Place.