When We Open To Love, We Become

Buddhist Practices Offer A Way Of Saying, 'hey, Come Back Over Here, Reconnect.' The Only Way That You'll Actually Wake Up And Have Some Freedom Is If You Have The Capacity And Courage To Stay With The Vulnerability And The Discomfort.

The Fear Side Can Have Us Pull Away And Protect Us, But It's Really A Withdrawal, A Disassociation, A Cutting Off. Rather Than The Word Detachment, I Usually Use The Word Non-attachment. That Can Be Wholesome When We Care And Are Completely Engaged With Each Other But Are Not Attached To Things Being A Certain Way.

I Knew I Could Hold Myself With That Absolute Love And Compassion.

The Mistake We Make Is That When We're Feeling Another Person Is Not Treating Us In The Way That Makes Us Feel Secure And Loved, We Fixate Our Attention On That Person And What's Wrong With Them. We Also Fixate On What's Wrong With Us. Instead, We Can Bring Forward Two Wings Of Awareness: The Wing Of Mindfulness (noticing What's Going On Inside Us) And The Wing Of Kindness (compassion To What's Going On Inside Us).

I Think The Reason Buddhism And Western Psychology Are So Compatible Is That Western Psychology Helps To Identify The Stories And The Patterns In Our Personal Lives, But What Buddhist Awareness Training Does Is It Actually Allows The Person To Develop Skills To Stay In What's Going On.