We Forgive Freely Or We Do Not

Forgive A Wife-slammer If You Can. But You Don't Have To Live With Him. Forgive A Husband Who Is Abusing Your Children If You Can. But Only After You Kick Him Out Of The House. And If You Can't Get Him Out, Get Help. It's Available. In The Meantime, Don't Let Him Near The Kids, And Don't Let Anyone Tell You That If You Forgive Him It Means You Have To Stay With Him. [there's An Important Difference Between Forgiving A Person And Tolerating Their Bad Behavior.]

If You Cannot Free People From Their Wrongs And See Them As The Needy People They Are, You Enslave Yourself To Your Own Painful Past And By Fastening Yourself To The Past, You Let Your Hate Become Your Future.

Can You Stop Your Memory On A Dime, Put It In Reverse, And Spin It In Another Direction The Way You Can Reverse Direction On A Tape Recorder? We Cannot Forget On Command. So We Just Have To Let The Forgetting Happen As It Will; We Shouldn't Rush It, And We Certainly Should Not Doubt The Genuineness Of Our Forgiving If We Happen To Remember. The Really Important Thing Is That We Have The Power To Forgive What We Still Do Remember.

Forgiving Does Not Erase The Bitter Past. A Healed Memory Is Not A Deleted Memory.

Kindness Is The Power That Moves Us To Support And Heal Someone Who Offers Nothing In Return.