Upon Becoming Fifty The One Thing You

We Women Have Lived Too Much With Closure: "if He Notices Me, If I Marry Him, If I Get Into College, If I Get This Work Accepted, If I Get This Job" -- There Always Seems To Loom The Possibility Of Something Being Over, Settled, Sweeping Clear The Way For Contentment. This Is The Delusion Of A Passive Life. When The Hope For Closure Is Abandoned, When There Is An End To Fantasy, Adventure For Women Will Begin.

Power Consists To A Large Extent In Deciding What Stories Will Be Told.

Normal Is Absolutely My Least Favorite Word.

To Recommend That Women Become Identical To Men, Would Be Simple Reversal, And Would Defeat The Whole Point Of Androgyny, And For That Matter, Feminism: In Both, The Whole Point Is Choice.

The Sign Of A Good Marriage Is That Everything Is Debatable And Challenged; Nothing Is Turned Into Law Or Policy. The Rules, If Any, Are Known Only To The Two Players, Who Seek No Public Trophies.