Today I Should Not Be Identified With

The Child Has A Primary Need To Be Regarded And Respected As The Person He Really Is At Any Given Time, And As The Center - The Central Actor - In His Own Activity.

It Was Not The Beautiful Or Pleasant Feelings That Gave Me New Insight, But The Ones Against Which I Fought Most Strongly: Feelings That Made Me Experience Myself As Shabby, Petty, Mean, Helpless, Humiliated, Demanding, Resentful Or Confused, And Above All, Sad And Lonely. It Was Precisely Through These Experiences, Which I Had Shunned For So Long, That I Became Certain That I Now Understood Something About My Life, Stemming From The Core Of My Being, Something That I Could Not Have Learned From Any Book.

The Victimization Of Children Is Nowhere Forbidden; What Is Forbidden Is To Write About It.

The Achievement Of Freedom Is Hardly Possible Without The Felt Mourning. This Ability To Mourn, I.e, To Give Up The Illusion Of A Happy Childhood, Can Restore Vitality And Creativity If A Person Is Able To Experience That He Was Never Loved As A Child For What He Was, But For His Achievements, Success And Good Qualities. And That He Sacrificed His Childhood For This Love, This Will Shake Him Very Deeply.

One Can Only Remember What Has Been Consciously Experienced.