Owning Our Past Allows Us To Own

If You Just Got Enough Expertise And Enough Special Techniques And Read Up Enough, Then You Could Shape A Child Into The Kind Of Adult You Wanted. There's Almost This Kind Of Competitive Enterprise. That Picture Is The Picture I Think People Often Imply When They Use The Word "parenting".

We Pass Our Values, Ideas And Moral Character On To Our Children, But We Do That Knowing That Our Children Are Going To Revise Our Knowledge And Reshape Their Values. There's Something Very Paradoxical And Profound About Being A Parent As Opposed To Parenting. We Put In All This Effort And Energy Not So That We Can Shape A Child Of A Particular Sort, But So That All Sorts Of Possibilities Can Happen In The Future.

The Radio Was An Improvement On The Telegraph But It Didn't Have The Same Exponential, Transformative Effect.

We Don't Measure The Quality Of Our Other Relationships By How Well The Other Person Turns Out, For Instance Whether My Husband Is A Better Person After 10 Years Than He Was When I First Met Him.

I'm Afraid The Parenting Advice To Come Out Of Developmental Psychology Is Very Boring: Pay Attention To Your Kids And Love Them.