Our Spouse Will Usually Interpret Our Message

I Think Another [myth] Is That Some Marriages Are Just Hopeless. This Is A Common Thing I Hear From People, "well, I Just Think There Are Some Marriages That Are Hopeless, Dr. Chapman, Don't You Agree With That?" I Say I Understand The Feeling, But The Fact Is That There Are No Marriages That Are Hopeless.

People Do Not Get Married Planning To Divorce. Divorce Is The Result Of A Lack Of Preparation For Marriage And The Failure To Learn The Skills Of Working Together As Teammates In An Intimate Relationship.

Once You Identify And Learn To Speak Your Spouse’s Primary Love Language, I Believe That You Will Have Discovered The Key To A Long-lasting, Loving Marriage. Love Need Not Evaporate After The Wedding, But In Order To Keep It Alive Most Of Us Will Have To Put Forth Effort To Learn A Secondary Love Language. We Cannot Rely On Our Native Tongue If Our Spouse Does Not Understand It. If We Want Them To Feel The Love We Are Trying To Communicate, We Must Express It In His Or Her Primary Love Language.

We Are Human, Which Means We Have The Potential To Make Things Different.

Physician Albert Scheweitzer Said. " We Are All So Much Together, But We Are All Dying Of Loneliness." Professor Leo Buscaglia Notes, "there Seems To Be Accumulating Evidence That There Is Actually An Inborn Need For This Togetherness, This Human Interaction, This Love. It Seems That Without These Close Ties With Other Human Beings, A New Born Infant, For Example, Can Regress Developmentally, Lose Consciousness, Fall Into Idiocy And Die.