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The First And Often Only Person To Be Healed By Forgiveness Is The Person Who Does The Forgiveness... When We Genuinely Forgive, We Set A Prisoner Free And Then Discover That The Prisoner We Set Free Was Us.

The Secret Of Grace Is That It Can Be All Right At The Center Even When It Is All Wrong On The Edges.

Forgive A Wife-slammer If You Can. But You Don't Have To Live With Him. Forgive A Husband Who Is Abusing Your Children If You Can. But Only After You Kick Him Out Of The House. And If You Can't Get Him Out, Get Help. It's Available. In The Meantime, Don't Let Him Near The Kids, And Don't Let Anyone Tell You That If You Forgive Him It Means You Have To Stay With Him. [there's An Important Difference Between Forgiving A Person And Tolerating Their Bad Behavior.]

Their Pain [the Injurer's Pain At Having Injured You] And Your Pain Create The Point And Counterpoint For The Rhythm Of Reconciliation. When The Beat Of Their Pain Is A Response To The Beat Of Yours, They Have Become Truthful In Their Feelings...they Have Moved A Step Closer To A Truthful Reunion.

When We Forgive Someone, We Do Not Forget The Hurtful Act, As If Forgetting Came Along With The Forgiveness Package, The Way Strings Come With A Violin. Begin With The Basics. If You Forget, You Will Not Forgive At All. You Can Never Forgive People For Things You Have Forgotten About. You Need To Forgive Precisely Because You Have Not Forgotten What Someone Did; Your Memory Keeps The Pain Alive Long After The Hurt Has Stopped. Remembering Is The Storage Of Pain. It Is Why You Need To Be Healed In The First Place.