Hypocrisy Is Not Generally A Social Sin,

. . . Women Were Brought Up To Have Only One Set Of Manners. A Woman Was Either A Lady Or She Wasn't, And We All Know What The Latter Meant. Not Even Momentary Lapses Were Allowed; There Is No Female Equivalent Of The Boys-will-be-boys Concept.

Shame Is The Proper Reaction When One Has Purposefully Violated The Accepted Behavior Of Society. Inflicting It Is Etiquette's Response When Its Rules Are Disobeyed. The Law Has All Kinds Of Nasty Ways Of Retaliating When It Is Disregarded, But Etiquette Has Only A Sense Of Social Shame To Deter People From Treating Others In Ways They Know Are Wrong. So Naturally Miss Manners Wants To Maintain The Sense Of Shame. Some Forms Of Discomfort Are Fully Justified, And The Person Who Feels Shame Ought To Be Dealing With Removing Its Causes Rather Than Seeking To Relieve The Symptoms.

Dishonesty Is Not The Only Alternative To Honesty. There Is Also The Highly Underrated Virtue Of Shutting Up.

You Think Death Is Any Better An Excuse For Desertion Than Any Other?

There Is No Etiquette Rule That Decrees One Must Give Out Personal Information To Anyone Who Asks.