Healthy Shame Is An Emotion That Teaches

The Most Paradoxical Aspect Of Neurotic Shame Is That It Is The Core Motivator Of The Superachieved And The Underachieved, The Star And The Scapegoat, The Righteous And The Wretched, The Powerful And The Pathetic.

The Drivenness In Any Addiction Is About The Ruptured Self, The Belief That One Is Flawed As A Person. The Content Of The Addiction, Whether It Is Alcoholism Or Work, Is An Attempt At An Intimate Relationship. The Workaholic With Her Work Or The Alcoholic With His Booze Are Having A Love Affair. Each Alters Mood To Avoid The Feeling Of Loneliness And Hurt In The Underbelly Of Shame.

The Capacity For Love That Makes Dogs Such Rewarding Companions Has A Flip-side: They Find It Difficult To Cope Without Us. Since We Humans Programmed This Vulnerability, It's Our Responsibility To Ensure That Our Dogs Do Not Suffer As A Result.

It's Essential To Tell The Truth At All Times. This Will Reduce Life's Pain. Lying Distorts Reality. All Forms Of Distorted Thinking Must Be Corrected.

Children Aren't Fooled. They Know We Give Time To The Things We Love.