Genuine Love Is Volitional Rather Than Emotional.

Falling In Love Is Not An Act Of Will. It Is Not A Conscious Choice. No Matter How Open To Or Eager For It We May Be, The Experience May Still Elude Us. Contrarily, The Experience May Capture Us At Times When We Are Definitely Not Seeking It, When It Is Inconvenient And Undesirable.

To Heal Your Body, You Must First Heal Your Spirit.

I Gave Examples From My Clinical Practice Of How Love Was Not Wholly A Thought Or Feeling. I Told Of How That Very Evening There Would Be Some Man Sitting At A Bar In The Local Village, Crying Into His Beer And Sputtering To The Bartender How Much He Loved His Wife And Children While At The Same Time He Was Wasting His Family's Money And Depriving Them Of His Attention. We Recounted How This Man Was Thinking Love And Feeling Love--were They Not Real Tears In His Eyes?--but He Was Not In Truth Behaving With Love.

There Is No Virtue Inherent In Un-constructive Suffering.

Often The Most Loving Thing We Can Do When A Friend Is In Pain Is To Share The Pain-to Be There Even When We Have Nothing To Offer Except Our Presence And Even When Being There Is Painful To Ourselves.