Forgiving Does Not Erase The Bitter Past.

Forgive A Wife-slammer If You Can. But You Don't Have To Live With Him. Forgive A Husband Who Is Abusing Your Children If You Can. But Only After You Kick Him Out Of The House. And If You Can't Get Him Out, Get Help. It's Available. In The Meantime, Don't Let Him Near The Kids, And Don't Let Anyone Tell You That If You Forgive Him It Means You Have To Stay With Him. [there's An Important Difference Between Forgiving A Person And Tolerating Their Bad Behavior.]

The Only Way To Heal The Pain Which Will Not Heal Itself Is To Forgive The Person Who Hurt You. Forgiveness Heals The Memory's Vision. ... You Set A Prisoner Free, But You Discover The Real Prisoner Was Yourself.

The Difference Between Guilt And Shame Is Very Clear--in Theory. We Feel Guilty For What We Do. We Feel Shame For What We Are. A Person Feels Guilt Because He Did Something Wrong. A Person Feels Shame Because He Is Something Wrong. We May Feel Guilty Because We Lied To Our Mother. We May Feel Shame Because We Are Not The Person Our Mother Wanted Us To Be.

I Am Personally Thankful That We Live Together In A Large Moral House Even If We Do Not Drink At The Same Fountain Of Faith. The World We Experience Together Is One World, God's World, And Our World, And The Problems We Share Are Common Human Problems. So We Can Talk Together, Try To Understand Each Other, And Help Each Other.

We Feel Properly Embarrassed When We Are Caught Doing Something That Makes Us Look Inept, Knuckleheaded, Or Inappropriate. Maybe The Difference Is This: We Feel Embarrassed Because We Look Bad, And We Feel Shame Because We Think We Are Bad. When We Are Embarrassed, We Feel Socially Foolish. When We Are Shamed, We Feel Morally Unworthy.