Forgiveness Is Not A Feeling; It Is

The In-love Experience Does Not Focus On Our Own Growth Or On The Growth And Development Of The Other Person. Rather, It Gives Us The Sense That We Have Arrived And That We Do Not Need Further Growth.

Our Spouse Will Usually Interpret Our Message Based On Our Tone Of Voice, Not The Words We Use.

The Pattern Often Has Been Entrenched Since Childhood... [abusive People] Don't Think That There Is Anything Wrong With Them Because That Is The Way They Were Brought Up In Their Family.

This Book [desperate Marriages ] Is Really A Book On How To Be A Positive Change Agent In A Very, Very Difficult Marriage. I Am Not Promising That All Individuals Will Be Responsive To The Approach I Take, But I Do Believe That Many Marriages Could Be Saved... Could Be Healed. That Is My Hope.

When People Respond Too Quickly, They Often Respond To The Wrong Issue. Listening Helps Us Focus On The Heart Of The Conflict. When We Listen, Understand, And Respect Each Other's Ideas, We Can Then Find A Solution In Which Both Of Us Are Winners.