Empathy Grows As We Learn.

The Attempt To Be An Ideal Parent, That Is, To Behave Correctly Toward The Child, To Raise Her Correctly, Not To Give To Little Ortoo Much, Is In Essence An Attempt To Be The Ideal Child--well Behaved And Dutiful--of One's Own Parents. But As A Result Of These Efforts The Needs Of The Child Go Unnoticed. I Cannot Listen To My Child With Empathy If I Am Inwardly Preoccupied With Being A Good Mother; I Cannot Be Open To What She Is Telling Me.

Courage Can Be Just As Infectious As Fear.

The Achievement Of Freedom Is Hardly Possible Without The Felt Mourning. This Ability To Mourn, I.e, To Give Up The Illusion Of A Happy Childhood, Can Restore Vitality And Creativity If A Person Is Able To Experience That He Was Never Loved As A Child For What He Was, But For His Achievements, Success And Good Qualities. And That He Sacrificed His Childhood For This Love, This Will Shake Him Very Deeply.

Learning Is A Result Of Listening, Which In Turn Leads To Even Better Listening And Attentiveness To The Other Person. In Other Words, To Learn From The Child, We Must Have Empathy, And Empathy Grows As We Learn.

In The Short Term, Corporal Punishment May Produce Obedience. But It Is A Fact Documented By Research That In The Long Term The Results Are Inability To Learn, Violence And Rage, Bullying, Cruelty, Inability To Feel Another's Pain, Especially That Of One's Own Children, Even Drug Addiction And Suicide, Unless There Are Enlightened Or At Least Helping Witnesses On Hand To Prevent That Development.