Being A Pathfinder Is To Be Willing

Adolescents Are Like Cockroaches: They Come Out The Minute You Leave Town, Crawl The Walls, Feed Indiscriminately, Reproduce Alarmingly Unless Drugged, And Will Certainly Outlast You.

The Work Of Adult Life Is Not Easy. As In Childhood, Each Step Presents Not Only New Tasks Of Development But Requires A Letting Go Of The Techniques That Worked Before. With Each Passage Some Magic Must Be Given Up, Some Cherished Illusion Of Safety And Comfortably Familiar Sense Of Self Must Be Cast Off, To Allow For The Greater Expansion Of Our Distinctiveness.

Growth Demands A Temporary Surrender Of Security. It May Mean A Giving Up Of Familiar But Limiting Patterns, Safe But Unrewarding Work, Values No Longer Believed In, Relationships That Have Lost Their Meaning. As Dostoevsky Put It, "taking A New Step, Uttering A New Word, Is What People Fear Most." The Real Fear Should Be Of The Opposite Course.

When You Have Self-respect, You Have Enough.

My Research Offers Impressive Evidence That We Feel Better When We Attempt To Make Our World Better...to Have A Purpose Beyond One's Self Lends To Existence A Meaning And Direction - The Most Important Characteristic Of High Well-being.